I love being a boy mom. I’m always surprised though at how fast it’s going. I looked over the other day while I was driving down the road and Little Man was sitting in the front seat beside me and suddenly it occurred to me that my little boy looked quite like a man, albeit a young man, sitting there.
With time ever moving forward at what seems to be a more rapid rate, I’m ever thoughtful of how I want to spend my time with him. There is so much I want to tell him, teach him and encourage him in. Which is why I want to increase the number of mother and son dates that I feel are so important.
Just today, his lesson in Bible was about the importance of choosing the right wife. We discussed the roles that husbands and wives play in a marriage and how he can be loving, kind and helpful to her. But we also discussed how a wife should be loving, kind and helpful to him.
I had him open the scriptures to read for himself, 1 Cor. 7:3, Ephesians 5:23, 1 Peter 3:7, and Titus 2:3-5, because I want him to begin to bury those scriptures in his heart so when he is older and begins to think of a wife for himself, he will begin by looking for those characteristics. It’s never too early, I believe, to teach him the importance of choosing a wife who will help him reach heaven, and whom he can help to lead toward heaven.
As a side note: It’s never too early to begin praying for your future daughter-in-law as well. Place her life in God’s hands to be the exact right woman for your son.
Mother and son dates don’t just serve the purpose of spending quality time with your son. They can serve as excellent training time as well. For example, it’s during these times that you are in the ideal situation to teach your son how to lovingly treat a lady. You can talk with him about being a gentlemen and lovingly show him how to act while in the presence of a young lady when the time comes.
These times can serve as a means to teach him how to pay for things, how to select opportunities for conversation, and how to maintain a conversation. You can train him in a variety of details related to spending time with a young lady or even his future wife. All of which can be done in a subtle, yet fun way and he won’t even realize he’s learning.
5 Dates for Moms with Pre-teen Sons
Just when I am getting used to having a boy around all the time, stepping on LEGO bricks and watching Beloved and Young Man as they wrestle to see who is the strongest, I wake up to discover that my son is a pre-teen swiftly rolling toward the BIG 13. His likes have changed. So I’m always trying to figure out what it is he’s into these days so I can show him that HE matters to me.
- Pizza and Mini-Golf
Not at your local pizza shop, but at a nice sit down Italian restaurant, followed by Miniature Golf, after which you stop and get icecream for dessert.
- Burgers and Rootbeer Floats
What boy doesn’t love a good burger and the fun of pouring pop overtop of icecream? Follow up the meal with a hike at the local park, let him lead.
- Dinner at Home and Video Games
First, cook dinner together. Let him decide what dinner is. It might be hot-dogs and applesauce and it might be spaghetti and meatballs. It doesn’t matter, letting him decide helps him to see you are interested in him. While your at it, why not bake up a batch of cookies for munching on later while you play, yes, you play video games with him. When was the last time just you and he sat at the Wii and played a game, together? He’ll love that your interested in HIS likes.
- Movie (or TV show) Marathons
Order in dinner (he’ll probably want pizza), pop some popcorn, make ice-cream sundaes and put in the freezer for a quick grab later, then set down to watch a marathon of movies or tv shows with him. Maybe it will be the Harry Potter series, or Lord of the Rings, perhaps it will be Doctor Who or Star Trek, it really doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you are showing interest HIM.
- An afternoon of Bowling and Ice-Cream
Laughing with your son as you roll a gutter ball is both hilarious and humbling. But it’s super fun. He’ll love it as much as you will. Go in the afternoon to avoid the crowds, the leagues and the adult crowd. Then after you are finished playing go out for Ice-cream, not as dessert, but for dinner with all the toppings.
These are just suggestions of course. You know your son best, what are his interests? Share your own ideas in comments below.
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