Marriage has been since the beginning of time. You can read about the very first marriage relationship in the Bible. You see, God is the Creator of marriage. It all began in the beginning when He created a man, and then a woman to be the man’s companion and helper. Understanding God’s plan for marriage helps us to develop peaceful marriage relationships.
Because God created marriage, He desires for married couples to work together. His plan was never meant to be a temporary arrangement. He desires for a man and woman to be married and that they live life together as one. He wants their joining to be a complete relationship with each other, and with Him as well.
“For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him, and for him: And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.”— Colossians 1:16-17
Truly successful marriages require understanding the purpose that God had in mind when He designed marriage. The only way to know the purpose behind something is to consult the designer.
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Understanding God’s Plan for Peaceful Marriage
When we study scripture we come to understand that God created marriage for specific purposes. But, each of those purposes serves as a reflection of something greater.
When we understand God’s plan for our lives we can know a more peaceful marriage, and satisfying life that fulfills the very purpose for which we were created.
“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”— Genesis 2:18
God’s Plan for Companionship in Marriage
God created marriage in order to meet the human need of companionship in addition to meeting each other’s basic needs of food, shelter, and clothing. This relationship also fulfills the emotional needs of love, acceptance, intimacy, and faithfulness.
This companionship is meant to be a reminder of the relationship between mankind and God. When we walk with Him we share in his comfort, and in His peace. Similar to the comfort and peace of being with a spouse that you love.
God’s Plan for Faithfulness in Marriage
Perhaps you’ve learned that we, both men and women, were made in God’s image (Genesis 1:26-27). Have you also heard that within the marriage relationship husbands and wives also reflect the relationship of God’s faithfulness toward His people?
In marriage, the goal is for the husband and wife to remain faithful to each other. They are to forsake all others and cleave only to each other. As they enter their marriage they create a covenant, a promise, with each other.
“Your faithfulness endures to all generations; You established the earth, and it abides.”— Psalm 119:90
The marriage covenant is a reflection of God’s faithfulness toward the people He so lovingly created.
God’s Plan for Marriage brings Expansion of Creation
Marriage was created as a way for God’s creation to continue. Through the marriage relationship, God accomplishes the expansion of His creation. In the beginning, He commanded them to be fruitful and multiply.
“Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”— Genesis 1:28
While procreation can exist outside of marriage it was not God’s plan from the beginning. He created mankind to be one man, and one woman joining together for life, Matthew 19:4-6.
God’s Plan for Marriage Includes Family Teaching God’s Promises
Within that marriage and the expansion of His creation, the family is formed. When a husband and wife work together serving the Lord as mother and father to the children, they grow up knowing and respecting the Creator.
- They learn to love Him as they see their mother and father loving each other.
- They learn to respect Him as they see their mom and dad respecting each other.
In this way, His kingdom also continues, expands, and grows as parents train up faithful children in His will, Ephesians 6:4.
Marriage is a Reflection of Jesus’ Relationship with the church
Finally, marriage serves as a reflection of the relationship that Jesus has with His church. God’s only begotten Son, Jesus, served as the redeeming sacrifice to save God’s creation, mankind, from eternal death. In so doing, God gave Him the authority to build His church.
The scriptures compare the relationship of Jesus and His church to that of a marriage. As the husband loves the wife, so too does Jesus love the church. As the wife serves and obeys her husband, so too does the church serve and obey Jesus.
Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.— Ephesians 5 20-33
The relationships are symbiotic. Christ and His church is to be reflected in the marriage relationship. And, the marriage relationship is to reflect Christ and His church.
A Peaceful Marriage Requires Unity with God
When God designed marriage He desired unity to be an important aspect binding the couple to each other and to Him.
When the couple works and strives together their relationship is a reflection of the unity found within the Godhead. The Godhead is the unique relationship of God the Father, God the Son, and God the Spirit. Together they are one, they are unified in everything they do.
“And He [Jesus] answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”— Matthew 19:4-6
For God unity is important. Jesus explained that the unity which He had with God was the same unity He desired for His church, (John 17:23).
And, seeing that marriage is a reflection of the church, it’s easy to understand that God’s plan for marriage means there is to be unity between the man and woman. And, there is to be unity between the marriage and God.
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Knowing God’s plan for marriage is important to understand the importance of having a peaceful marriage.
Are you seeking to have more peace in your marriage? Are you new to marriage? Or, have you been married for some time and find that struggle exists making for a non-peaceful life?
It is possible to develop a peaceful marriage when you work, especially together, to reflect God’s design for marriage.