When Married Couples Travel Separately
Occasionally a husband and wife have to leave each for various reasons. Perhaps the wife needs to go and spend time with her family or he must go away for business.
This past weekend was such an occasion for Beloved and I. He stayed home with Little Man, and on Saturday had a freelance job to attend to, while I traveled with a friend to a homeschool convention in Cincinnati. I loved my time with my friend Jen and I enjoyed my time at the convention. I loved lingering in the bed on Saturday morning with my feet up and not rushing from here to there. I loved the mom conversations that she and I shared as well as getting to know her better.
However, in previous years Beloved and I have attended together and I must say I missed having him there. I missed touching base with him throughout the day and having him right there to get his opinion on a purchase. Of course, I missed having time alone with him as we traveled to and from and quiet time together in our hotel room.
Coming home and coming back to my husband was so comforting to my soul.
Jesus said, “‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.'” Matthew 19:5.
I love that moment when we find each other again. When the one who had been travelling returns home and we embrace. I love how for several days after we find that we are naturally more affectionate with each other. But, I do not like being away from each other. Over the years I have gotten more used to the idea, and can manage well apart, but I don’t like it.
Honor Each Other through Marriage Travel
Whatever the reason you may have to travel apart from each other there should a mutual understanding when you separate. You should understand that this temporary going away is not permission to do as you please, you remain married and loyal to your vows. You should both understand and reassure the other that your love will continue and that even though you are away you will seek to honor each other with your words and actions.
- When speaking with others of your marriage or spouse, speak honorable things. Husband bashing is easy to do when surrounded by girlfriends/family who engage in such conversation, however it doesn’t honor your spouse, and you can set a better example for your friends by not engaging in hurtful conversation.
- Remember that how you dress is a reflection upon your marriage.
- Be considerate of your family finances, excessive spending while travel will only hurt your marriage/family in the long run.
- Communicate while away. Whether it’s one phone call a day, several texts throughout the day, comments on each other’s social media images and posts, reaching out to each other while apart will serve as a reminder of your commitment to one another.
- When you return to each other, spend time reconnecting. Be sure to kiss, and share your experiences with each other.
Loving your husband while apart is just as important as loving him while you are together. Remember that love never fails, 1 Corinthians 13:8.
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