I’m a boy mom. One day, he’ll be a man and hopefully, find a wife of his own and begin his own family. I want to have a great relationship with my future daughter-in-law. Not as an overbearing mother-in-law who doesn’t know her place, or as her bestie, nor as a replacement of her own mom. But, I do want to have a relationship with her that allows us to communicate, share in family life in a compatible way, and trust each other as sisters in the Lord.
“And whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.” Matthew 21:22 NKJV
That’s why a long time ago, shortly after my son came into the family, while he was still a baby, I began praying for her. You see, you don’t have to know a person’s name to pray for them. You simply have to have a heart of love for them. I love my future daughter-in-law. Why? Because, one day she’s going to love my son. I want her to know that I love her simply for that reason. I want her to know that I’ve loved her for years and that whomever my son chooses, she will be the one I’ve prayed for.
“The Lord is far from the wicked, But He hears the prayer of the righteous.”. Proverbs 15:29 NKJV
Prayer, is a precious and powerful form of communication. It isn’t a one way talk where I’m talking to thin air. Oh no! It is a two way communication. Where I pour out my heart to my Creator Father, and He listens to me. He also works through my praise and thanksgiving to bring about good in my life and the lives of those that I love.
“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28. NKJV
My prayers are never exactly the same. My Father doesn’t want me to use vain repetition. He wants me to lovingly trust Him to hear and answer my prayers. I fully believe that what I ask of Him, with thanksgiving, I shall receive. Oh, it doesn’t always look exactly like I imagined. Nor, does it always happen in my own sense of time. But, He has always and will always remain faithful.
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6 & 7 NKJV
While my prayer for my future daughter-in-law is never exactly the same, my goal is to pray for her spiritual walk with Christ to be aligned with the teachings of His word. I pray in this way because I know that God’s design for marriage is good, right and pure. If then, she seeks to walk with Christ by following His word, then she will have a good, right and pure heart to present to my son as his wife, and together they will seek to walk in a good, right and pure path with Christ. What more could any mother want for her son, her future daughter-in-law, and eventually her grandchildren?
5 Things to Pray for Your Future Daughter-in-Law
- Pray that she is now being trained up in a loving, righteous, Christian home according to God’s word (Ephesians 6:4).
- Pray that she will develop a love for Christ Jesus and commit her life to Him when she reaches the age of understanding, by obeying the Gospel of Christ and seeking to walk faithfully with Him all of her days (Romans 6:1-10).
- Pray that she will learn to be submissive to God the Father through Christ Jesus, and in learning submission to His will, she will understand her godly role as a wife who is submissive to her husband (Ephesians 5:22 & 24, and Colossians 3:18, 1 Peter 3:1).
- Pray that she will have a heart that seeks to be meek and peaceable, not fearful, but lovingly respectful of others and desirous to share Christ with them. (Matthew 5:5&9 and 1 Timothy 1:7 and 1 John 4:7-8)
- Pray that she will have a heart that seeks to honor God’s design for marriage and will desire to walk in the roles He has set forth in scripture (1 Corinthians 14:34, 1 Timothy 2:9-10, and Titus 2:3-5).
There are other things I pray for her as well. But these five remain at the core of those as well because I may spend time praying specifics for each of them. I don’t know what she looks like, or who she is. It doesn’t matter. Be careful that your prayer doesn’t focus on you, your wants, your desires and how you will feel, but rather, on her heart, soul and walk with the Lord. My prayer is for her heart, her soul, and the love that she grows within her, not only for my son, but for Christ as well.
I hope that out there somewhere is another mom who is now praying for my son, who may just be her future son-in-law, as well.
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5 Replies to “How to Pray for Your Future Daughter-in-Law”
That’s awesome Amy, I know there will come a day when you will be thankful that you did. She’ll be a beautiful wife to him on the inside and the outside and she’ll be like the missing piece of his very own personal puzzle.
I have been looking for something like this for a long time. I will be praying for all the mom and sons who are looking for a God loving wife and I ask that you all keep my son in your prayers as I pray for his future wife. In Jesus name. Amen
I’m so glad this is helpful to you. And, thanks for the prayers for all the sons and future wives.